Take a breath and breathe in the meaning of your better. Become your better with each action you take. With every interaction become your better self. Each movement of your body. Each word you utter. This is the better you likely seek.
I had a friend that once told me he was loyal to his wife because she was loyal to him. When I asked, “What happens if she ever is not loyal to you?” His answer was that he’d not be loyal, too. How strange.